We've also got to remember we are talking about 13-18 year old kids who are attending school to get educated and prepared for life. I have found that you learn more from sticking through a tough situation than running from it.
Make that same argument regarding adults and you would be saying that no one could ever change jobs to seek a better opportunity or to avoid harassment; no one could ever leave the community where they, their parents/grandparents, grew up without being labled "disloyal", and no one could ever choose to live anywhere else without being labeled an "outsider".
People make decisions to seek opportunities, to improve their situation, or to attempt to extricate themselves from bad situations all the time.
Those kinds of choices and decisions are considered "inalienable rights" or "smart and responsible" - indicative of "ambition" or "effort", for adults to make. Minor children do not legally have those same rights - they are at the mercy of their parents' choices [good or bad].
But shouldn't parents also have the right to "consider" ["cater to", "exploit", or "ignore", depending on
your definition of their actions] their own children's welfare and best interests in making these decisions rather than being "locked in" by accident of birth or address to any
one particular situation for
life, no matter
what, with no alternative choices permitted?
gahs4ever - I absolutely agree with everything you've said on this subject.
This subject never comes up in regard to academic or musical or artistic abilities and the potential opportunities offered by one particular school over another in those areas - only "athletics" is ever accused or meant by the term "recruiting". GOOD programs in any discipline, any area, make their mark, achieve recognition, and are in and of themselves "attractive".
On the college level, aren't certain schools particularly known for their "engineering" or "music" or "business" programs, as well as for their athletic achievements? Why shouldn't high school students [or their parents on their behalf] seek out - and have a choice about - the school that best fits, and provides the best foundation for their needs and talents?